A New Perspective on Hustling For Success

Self Esteem Gospel

Our culture makes hustling, working hard, and success into the things that will give us ultimate joy and satisfaction. We conclude that if we have those things then we will be happy, have peace, and have satisfaction with life. Unfortunately, all of these things are dependent on us, and therefore dependent on our performance and […]

Self Love: What Its Message Gets Wrong

Self Esteem Gospel

Culture, Instagram influencers, and popular messages say that self-love is the way to cure our pain, insecurity, and shame. We hear from every angle that we need to love ourselves, and that in order to find self-confidence we have to change the narrative we think about ourselves; that loving ourselves has to come before everything […]

Girl, You’re Not Enough

Self Esteem Gospel

Rachel Hollis recently blocked me on Instagram.  Although I agree with many of her points and think she is a talented speaker and businesswoman, the foundations of her message motivate me to speak out. {See the video that caused me to be blocked here, under the “shame” story highlight.} Her message and the self-esteem gospel–summed […]

The Self Esteem Gospel

Self Esteem Gospel

“You are enough.”  “You are worthy” “Believe in yourself.” “You are the hero of your own story.” “Never give up on your dreams” I grew up during what seemed like the peak of the self-esteem movement, during the 90s and early 2000s. Some of the phrases above were on posters all over my elementary classrooms. […]